I love to laugh. There’s nothing better than hearing a funny joke that allows me to escape the decisions I need to make, and enjoy the moment. When I need a good laugh, I know which friend to call, and which ones to avoid. We live in a society where we spend billions of dollars on entertainment and searching for activities just to bring balance to our lives. We spend an enormous amount of time making life decisions for ourselves and our family just to have a better way of life. There are times when you may wish you could relinquish your responsibilities just to enjoy a day of fun and laughter.
Individuals will plan a trip to another state just to attend a Kevin Hart, or Jerry Seinfeld concert, to laugh. They will spend as much as $500 for two concert tickets and another $500 for hotel. These costs do not include food or spending; just to be entertained. So, if laughter is important to the balance of life, why is it so difficult for people to make light of their own imperfections? Is it easier to point the finger and laugh at someone else, which in turn, makes you feel better about yourself? Accepting our own truths and imperfections takes true transparency and vulnerability. We sometimes put on facades for others, so we appear perfect with no shortcomings, but this is impractical and not attainable. There is a liberty that comes when you can accept who you are.
Making yourself a priority comes with embracing your many components and accepting them all. You are fearfully and wonderfully made. We all have little quirks about ourselves that others may not understand or appreciate. For example, you may bite your bottom lip when having to make challenging decisions, and that makes you perfectly unique. We can’t become so easily offended and wear our feelings on our sleeves. We must learn to make light of laughable moments.
I recall struggling when a joke was about me, and not separating the joke from my desire to be perfect. When that occurred, something internal made me feel inadequate and I didn’t know how to process the information, and not take offense. After getting mad, the game was over for me, and I was ready to pack up my ball and head home leaving nothing for others to play with. lol. I would be in my feelings. I can look back on those situations now, and laugh, but at the time it wasn’t funny. No one is perfect. Life is meant to be enjoyed, and we should accept the many facets of ourselves. We can’t be great at everything so if you are bad at singing that’s ok. Keep singing as loud as you can, and the next time your friends clown you about how horrible and off key you sound, just laugh. Enjoy balance and don’t take yourself so serious. #the quandary.
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